Sizakele & Maphefo

‘Once you start to speak, people will yell at you. They will interrupt you, put you down and suggest it’s personal. And the world won’t end.

And the speaking will get easier and easier. And you will find you have fallen in love with your own vision, which you may never have realized you had. And you will lose some friends and lovers, and realize you don’t miss them. And new ones will find you and cherish you. And you will still flirt and paint your nails, dress up and party, because, as I think Emma Goldman said, “If I can’t dance, I don’t want to be part of your revolution.” And at last you’ll know with surpassing certainty that only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth. And that is not speaking.’

Audre Lorde

Image of Sizakele & Maphefo, JHB 2015

Cila and Rose

When I started the ‘Embodiment series’ just over two years ago I had no idea of what I was actually letting myself in for. 

If you are not aware of what the project is about or why it came into being, here is the link  and 

The conceptualisation and reasons were clear, but there was no way of knowing just how things would work out in reality. 

Little did I know just how special ‘strangers’ would become and that they would indeed become friends. 

The very first couple that I photographed, Cila and Rose are that to me. 

We met on a cold and rainy day in Cape Town. Cila responded to my call for action and I set up a meeting to photograph her and her Canadian wife, Rosanna. 

They shared their story with me and I was to learn that ship board romances do in fact have a happy ever after! So much so that Rosanna moved to South Africa to be with Cila. Six years down the line with still no work permit and documentation they have taken the big decision to move to Canada and build their future there. 

I was once again to photograph them, this time with no awkwardness only an ease that friendship can bring. 

They shared a very special and symbolic ceremony with me. 

One that originated on their wedding day where they took sand from South Africa and Canada and poured it together to symbolise the merging of two individuals. 

They have added to their sand vase with little bits of sand from their travels and meaningful places along the way. 

Their sand vase as you can imagine has gotten quite full and very heavy and it is time to make a new one. 

So they took their vase to Clifton 4th beach and poured it out, some of the sand fell into a small little container, that they will now start their next vase with. 

We then popped home to say hi to the cats and to take a few last photos. 

I am so glad that I have met this beautiful couple. They are quirky, sweet and very loving and I shall miss them. 

Bon Voyage Cila and Rose. 

Tot wedersiens. 

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